Archive for August 21st, 2012

I recently received an email from a concerned lady.  She has a boyfriend who is an alcoholic, and she is understandably concerned and wanted some advice.  Her boyfriend has erratic behavior when he drinks, which is quite often, and he has several DUI’s.  She wanted to know what she should do.

I told her, and I would tell any loved one, that it is up to the alcoholic to make things right.  All she can do is love him and express that love, but she also has to realize that her number one priority has to be herself and her safety.

Alcoholics are capable of wreaking havoc not only in their lives, but the lives of those around them.  Until they want to quit drinking, they should never be enabled.  They are choosing to continue their destructive behavior but that does not mean they should be allowed to destroy the lives of those who love them.

Remember:  if you are the loved one of an alcoholic, your first responsibility is to yourself.  You cannot fix an alcoholic, and all the love and enabling in the world is not going to make things better.

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