Posts Tagged ‘addiction’

teacherHow did it go this weekend?  Did you stay sober?  Did you act sober?

I know, that may seem like a strange question but really it isn’t.  The old question begs to be asked:  if you take the alcohol away from a drunk horse thief, what do you get?  You still get a horse thief!

The point being that not drinking does not solve all your problems.  The biggest problem is you!  We have to learn to deal with our inner demons if we are ever to fully find peace and happiness, and so the question remains:  did you act sober this weekend, or did you act like a drunk who needs a drink and still has demons?

Take some time this morning and see if you can honestly answer that question.

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teacherAre you an alcoholic?  Well there’s a loaded question if I ever heard one.  Get it??? Loaded???  Sigh, my humor may be too unique.  LOL

So back to the question.  Unfortunately, the only one who can truly answer that question is the person asking it.

Remember that alcoholism is a physical addiction and a psychological obsession.  Do you go about your day thinking about your next drink?  Do you find it almost impossible to stop after one drink?  Has alcohol started to cause problems in your life?  Do you lie to cover-up your use of alcohol? Do you hide your drinking?  Have you found your health suffering because of your drinking?

All of those are clues that you might just have a problem worth addressing.  Normal drinkers can take it or leave it.  They can stop after one drink.  Alcohol usually does not cause problems in their lives and they do not lie to cover up the fact that they had a couple drinks.

Perhaps the best indicator that you might be an alcoholic is the fact that you would even ask the question in the first place.  The mere act of asking if you are an alcoholic says that you realize alcohol is a problem in your life. J

There is help out there…reach out and ask for it before it is too late.

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teacherI started this blog as a way to inform others about the disease of alcoholism.  It was also my hope that I could in some way help the still-suffering alcoholic and/or help those loved ones who are living with an alcoholic and don’t know what to do.

I do not advertise on this blog.  This is not about making money.  I do have an ebook about alcoholism but I do not advertise about it.  This blog is simply my way of reaching out to those who may need someone to talk to about this disease.

And I have been very gratified because people have reached out.  It is so uplifting when someone asks me for help, or simply needs to “talk” to someone about this baffling disease.

Alcoholism has been called the disease of aloneness.  There is great secrecy about alcoholism, not only with alcoholics but also their families and friends.  People keep shoving it into the closet in hopes that others will not find out, and that is the worst thing you can do.

There is no shame in having a disease.  There is no shame in loving someone who has a disease.  I have heard it said often that we are only as sick as our secrets, so I say to all of you that if alcoholism is a part of your life or the life of a loved one, it needs to be spoken about and brought out into the light.  There is no other way to deal with it.

If you are suffering from alcoholism, or you have a loved one who is, reach out to me. I am here for you and I will do everything I can to make sure you do not have to face this killing disease alone.  That is my promise to you and I am worth trusting.

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much younger daysI have people who depend on me.  I have people who trust me and believe in my word.  What a remarkable thing that is considering where I have come from.

There was a day, not so long ago, when my word was worth very little.  I could not be trusted nor could I be believed.  My whole world revolved around alcohol, and mundane things like trust and character did not enter into my daily life.  My family worried about me, of course, because they loved me, but they did not trust me and quite frankly, they were convinced I would be dead within the near future.

Today that is all gone because you see, today alcohol is not my lover.  Today I love life, and my well-being, and that of my family, are the most important things in my life.

The change in me happened because I made a choice.  It was a difficult choice because it required that I change most things about me, but it was a conscious choice and one that completely changed my life.

You can do the same!  If you are struggling with alcohol or drugs, there is help available, but the first step involves admitting that there is a problem and that you need help.  When you are ready to admit those things then you are on your way for the trip of a lifetime.

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teacherI mean, I inherited the disease of alcoholism, and I learned early to get help when I needed it. I always went to people who knew more than I did.

Liza Minelli


Boy, talk about an endorsement for sponsorship!  Great quote and oh so true.  When I was first cognizant of the fact that I had a problem with alcohol, I had no clue how to stop drinking.  I mean  no clue.  I would continually make efforts to stop drinking, or at least cut back, and nothing I did had any effect.

It was only when I sought out help from those who had successfully given up alcohol that I finally began to find a solution.  Finding the right sponsor in AA is so important.  Learning from someone who has been there, who understands, and who has found the solution is invaluable for those just starting on the sobriety journey.

My sponsors have all helped me to not only stop drinking but to live a meaningful and happy life sober.  They taught me to look at myself, because I was the main problem.  They taught me how to cope with life, and to not only cope but to embrace life and love it as the gift that it is.

If I don’t know how to fix my car when it breaks down I go to a mechanic.  If I don’t know how to stop drinking I go to someone who has done that successfully.

It just makes sense to do so.

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markIt is my pleasure to introduce you to a friend of mine, Mark Bruno!  Mark has agreed to supply today’s post about alcoholism. I’m sure you will find it interesting and helpful.


How To get Your Life Back On Track After Leaving An Alcohol Rehabilitation Center

You have finally taken that step towards a new life and have entered a Rehab. Center for the treatment of your alcohol addiction.

You put your heart into getting well and listened to your counselors every words of advice and wisdom.  Now the time comes that you will be released from their care and back you go to the outside world with many temptations from your past and the friends you hung around during those times of drinking and abusing alcohol.

The questions in your mind are how to get your life back on track after leaving an Alcohol Rehabilitation Center?

There are unfortunately many things that you must avoid when entering back into society as a clean and sober person.  Some you may not like, but it is a must to listen to those words from your counselors, as they know best for your well being and your long term sobriety.

Number 1 – You just may have to say goodbye to your past drinking buddies for they will try to influence you to start drinking alcohol again.  They sure don’t like drinking alone without you.  Many of them will not support you choice to become clean and sober for jealousy they don’t have the willpower or the determination to get sober as you did.

Number 2 –  You may need to stay clear of any parties or functions that your family has until you feel comfortable being around alcohol again. (This is what I had to do in the beginning of my recovery)

Number 3 –  You MUST stay busy physically and mentally at all times so that your minds doesn’t wonder to what you are trying to stay away from which is your past alcohol addiction.

Number 4 – Think of a hobby that you would really enjoy doing and be able to even share this hobby with your family.

Number 5 – Take walks alone or with your spouse or sober friends.

Number 6 –  Start a exercise regiment at home or join a gym to be around others that are trying to make their lives better as you are.

For more wisdom from Mark, follow along on his blog at here or  you can find him on HubPages at here.
Thank you Mark!

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much younger daysMaking amends.  The 8th and 9th Steps of AA.  Very tough times for most recovering alcoholics.  Facing those we have harmed and saying we are sorry and asking forgivenesss…..folks, if you have never done it then you have no way of knowing how difficult this is.

I was never a violent drunk.  I was never obnoxious and I rarely if ever went out in public to drink. I did, however, cause my share of emotional and psychological pain for those who loved me, and I had to make amends for that damage.

I have done that now and I need never go back to that way of life.  The choice is mine! Today I live a life where, at the end of the day, I owe nobody reparations or apologies.  I live a simple life and treat others with respect and compassion.

The past is passed.  Wallowing in self-pity will solve nothing.  Wallowing in guilt is counter-productive.  Today I am all about helping others and being a positive influence in the lives of those I meet.

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