Posts Tagged ‘alcoholics anonymous’

DSCN0948There is a great calm that accompanies sobriety, but it takes time to reach that point.  Changing one’s life is not an overnight accomplishment.

There is an old saying in AA…..if you take the booze away from a drunk horse thief, you still have a horse thief.  We need to change who we are in order to find serenity.

When I first came to AA, I would hear about people who had twenty and thirty years of sobriety, and it seemed to me that they had to be lying.  There was no way someone could be sober that long.  Well, it turns out that you can, but you do it one day at a time.  Today is all that matters for this alcoholic.  I can’t be concerned with tomorrow, or next month, or five years down the road.  All I have to do is live a sober life today, and then when tomorrow comes I have a new day to be sober.

Before you know it, those days have added up to weeks, and then months, and one day you look in the mirror and realize that a different person is looking back at you, and that you in fact like this new person.

Yes, there is a great calm that accompanies sobriety, and you realize that great calm by taking care of business today.

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The last drunk, six years ago!

“Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”

Step Four of the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous

Yes, we have made a mess of things during our drinking career.  We have hurt others.  Oh, how we have hurt others.  We have hurt ourselves.  Oh, how we have hurt ourselves.

Step Four requires us to make a list, and for most of us it is not a pretty list.  We need to write down all of the people we have hurt.  We need to write down all of our wrongdoings.  We need to write down all of our resentments and all of our moral shortcomings.

When faced with such a list, many shrink back into the bottle.  Many, however, with the help of a sponsor, write the list, face the truths in the list, and take another step towards freedom.

It can be done!  It requires willingness, a willingness to do everything necessary to change our lives.

There is a solution!

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“The alcoholic is like a tornado roaring his way through the lives of others.  Hearts are broken.  Sweet relationships are dead.  Affections have been uprooted.  Selfish and inconsiderate habits have kept the home in turmoil.  We feel a man is unthinking when he says that sobriety is enough.”

Page 82 of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous


The point being that stopping the drink is not enough to repair the damage done.  To expect families to just forgive and forget, simply because the alcoholic has stopped drinking, is foolishness to the extreme.  Amends have to be made and they need to be made in a heartfelt manner.  Some amends may not be accepted and that is as it should be.

Living a daily life of sobriety means living by spiritual principles.  It is a lifelong process.  It basically means that besides talking the talk you have to walk the walk.  Then, and only then, will repairs be made and trust be restored.

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