Posts Tagged ‘recover’

teacherAn estimated 43% of U.S. adults have had someone related to them who is presently, or was, an alcoholic.

That statistic comes from “Alcoholism Information and Statistics” online, and I think that percentage is too low.  Quite frankly I don’t know of anyone in my circle of friends who has been untouched by alcoholism.

18 million Americans currently battle alcoholism.

7 million minors in the U.S. live with an alcoholic mother or father.

And on and on we go. The statistics are seemingly endless and they are always frightening.

Alcoholism kills!  Alcoholism destroys families!

There is no instant cure for alcoholism.  There is no magic elixir that will make all the pain go away and repair all the damage that has been done to family emotions and trust.

Ending the horrors of alcoholism requires a willingness to do the ugly work. It requires rolling up your sleeves, strapping on your work shoes and doing whatever is necessary to beat back the demons.

Are you willing to end the cycle of destruction? Are you willing to take responsibility and turn your life around?

The choice is yours and yes, you definitely have a choice.

If you want to take the first step, contact me and let’s chat.  Whenever anyone, anywhere reaches out for help, I want the hand of AA to always be there, and for that I AM RESPONSIBLE!


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loving life on a hikeHere is my message today for those of you who are still struggling with alcohol….are you ready?


I’m not big on making excuses.  I’m somewhat of an AA hard-ass.  By that I mean I don’t sugarcoat anything to do with alcoholism.  It is not a pretty disease.  It kills, and it not only kills the alcoholic but it destroys lives of loved ones.  How could I possibly sugarcoat that?

I have seen friends die from heart disease, failing kidneys, destroyed livers, and all related to their alcoholism.  I have had friends commit suicide and die homeless on the streets, and all because of alcoholism.

No excuses…no sugarcoating….no pats on the head saying everything will be alright….alcoholism kills.


It is a choice you know.  There is help out there if you want it.  If you don’t want it then you are making a choice…if you do want it you are making a choice.  I am here if you need someone to talk to….AA is there….millions of other people will help you if you want them to…..or….

You can choose to die.


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wash d.c.The U.S. CDC recently reported that 12,000 women and girls die each year from binge drinking.

I mention that because I want to point out that binge drinking does not necessarily mean alcoholism.  A person with little history of drinking can go out on the town, drink too much, and die of alcohol poisoning.  They could go to the beach on Spring break and drink too much over five or seven days, and die from it.  Remember that alcohol is a depressant, and if the body is not accustomed to that much alcohol, it can be fatal.

That is a completely different discussion than alcoholism.  Alcoholism is a disease featuring a physical craving and a psychological dependency, and it is characterized by a long history of excessive drinking.

One of the things that makes alcoholism such a sneaky bastard is the fact that nobody really knows they are alcoholic without first stepping into the waters.  The disease is genetic for sure, but it can skip generations, so there is no real way of knowing until it steps up and bites you in the ass.

My recommendation, and I rarely do this, but my recommendation is that if you have alcoholism in your family history, think long and hard before you start drinking.  Is it worth the risk just to get socially high with your friends?

If you would like to see my video on alcoholism, you can find it here.

And if you would like to purchase my ebook on this disease, you can find it here.

Thank you!

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wash d.c.So, I was eating lunch, trying to reduce my caloric intake, and I was wondering what I was going to write today for this blog.  Then it came to me, like a bolt out of the sky…..are you ready?


There…that will be $20 for the hour’s consultation!

I had a friend once in AA who had her son lock her in the closet so she couldn’t get out to buy booze.  He did, she didn’t, and after three days she felt sufficiently strong enough to literally come out of the closet.

That, my friends, is determination and willingness to go to any lengths not to drink.

You have to want it ladies and gentlemen.  You have to want sobriety so bad that you are willing to do anything….anything….to stay sober….and please, no excuses.  If you slip and have a relapse, don’t blame it on the wife’s nagging or your boss being a jerk….we relapse because we didn’t want it bad enough to go to any lengths.  I hate excuses!  It goes something like this:  if you had my problems you would drink too.   Oh cry me a river!  We all have problems!thumbnailCAE2TTDQ

So there you have my words of wisdom today….DON’T DRINK!

And if you do drink, don’t bother with the whining or the excuse making….you chose to drink again, plain and simple, and you can choose to stop drinking any old time you want.

If you would like to buy my ebook about my experience with alcoholism, you can buy it here.

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The holidays are coming!  That can be either good news or bad news for an alcoholic, and it all depends on you!

I am pretty big on personal responsibility, and I am also one who calls bullshit when I hear it.  Living a sober life is a commitment, and the only one who can fulfill that commitment is the alcoholic.

Yes, the holidays are a time when drinking occurs.  Family dinners, celebrations, office parties, gab sessions with old friends, they all happen and there always seems to be booze around when they happen. However, that is not an excuse to drink!

For some, the holidays are a sad time, reminders of days gone by when the family was one, and everyone was happy….before the damage caused by alcohol.  So there is some sadness in the air and sadness leads to alcohol because hey, we are alcoholics, and that’s what we do.

No, it isn’t….that’s what we choose to do!

For the past six years I have been sober during the holidays.  For the past twenty Christmas seasons I have been sober.  That was a conscious decision on my part to not use excuses and to stay sober.  Of course it took some planning but it was oh so worth it.

I’ll tell you what I have done.  I do not put myself in slippery places or situations.  I do not go to New Year’s Eve parties, and I do not meet people in taverns or cocktail lounges.  There is no liquor in our house and all of my friends and family are well-aware that I do not want booze around me.  Period!

If they want to drink they can do it anywhere but around me.  If they want to party with booze they can party without me.  For me, alcohol is poison, and it will not be a part of my holiday season.

And that is a choice and a commitment!

I’ll tell you one other thing:  it is entirely possible to have a fun holiday season without booze. I am living proof of that statement.

Happy Holidays everyone!

P.S. I invite everyone to watch my video about alcoholism found here…..http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EakW8mlNE24&feature=player_embedded

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